Dating someone in basic training
January 21, 2011 By Stacey Abler, owner of Updated January 2016 Your main form of communication with your husband/soldier during basic training is through letters and postcards.He should be able to call home throughout training but these calls are generally limited to a maximum of one per week and, many times, are less often than that.I started dating my boyfriend when I was 15 he was 17. I was supportive, but I didn’t really know what I was in for either.We fell in love quickly, after dating for about a year, and he was 18 he told me some army recruiters had stopped by during lunch at school and they said he had potential physically after completing a pt test with him. The day he left was hard but it still hadn’t hit me, but a few weeks later I became really depressed. Things became easier as I received many letters over the course of the 16 weeks of btc and ait, until we found out he would be stationed in Germany. I didn’t know what to do, how to feel, and I didn’t know what to say.But, if you've already made your decision to get married and are now just deciding whether it would be better to get married before or after joining the military, the following information may be of use to you. A married servicemember receives a Housing Allowance while in basic training and follow-on job training (Technical School, AIT, A-School), in order to provide a household for his or her dependents, even though they are also living for free in government quarters (barracks).If you get married before joining the military, this tax-free housing allowance begins on the very first day of active duty (the first day of basic training).
However, I emphasize that one should not make their marriage decision based primarily on these factors.You may feel like you can’t possibly tell him one more time how proud you are of him or how much you support him but just remember that could be the pick me up he needs after a rough day of training.Grab your pen, a pad of paper and plenty of stamps to get ready for more letter writing than you’ve probably ever done in your life.If one waits until after joining the military to get married, the housing allowance becomes effective on the date of the marriage.However, one needs a "certified" copy of the marriage certificate to change their marital status, and (depending on the state) this can take a couple of weeks, or even a month to obtain.
As time goes by, however, writing letters becomes more difficult.